A common tendency among job seekers is to look at the person conducting the interview as a guardian — a sort of stern and challenging doorman, standing arms crossed, looking to keep them from their ideal job. This view forces a confrontational approach toward the interview process. And most people are not very comfortable with confrontation.
When we think about facing someone whom we consider an adversary, our adrenaline level typically rises…our blood pressure elevates…and our palms begin to sweat. Merely anticipating a confrontation will trigger a primitive fight or flight response. And unless you’re a contending middleweight, this is not a productive way to prepare for a successful outcome.
The challenge is to reframe your perception. Instead of confrontation, consider cooperation. You and the interviewer are there to help each other. You can help the hiring manager meet hiring goals by demonstrating how you are right for the job. And the hiring manager can help you verify that this truly is your ideal job. To reduce stress, focus on collaboration and partnership. How can you help the interviewer see the real you? There really is no reason to be nervous. Don’t you and the interviewer both want the same result?